There is no right or wrong way to get you to the love you desire and deserve. But I can promise you this: love will not find you at home. I hate to be the one to tell you, but you gotta get out of the house! The only man you will meet sitting at home is the Federal Express man, the UPS man, the Postman or the Jehovah witness man. And don’t get it twisted honey they all probably have nice strong arms from caring all those heavy packages. So hey…. if thats what you want. You can definitely find it by staying at the crib. #ijs

I know what you’re feeling: why should I have to look for love? But you are not looking for love; you are positioning yourself for love. And what’s wrong with that? You position yourself for everything else you want. No one brought the perfect career or job to your front door and presented it to you. You had to actively position yourself for it. It’s the same with love. Going about dating and love the way you have in the past has gotten you where you are today. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

Why both online and offline dating? It’s simple. For me, it’s all about positioning and having as many choices as possible. I use to be weirded out by even the thought of being as strategic with my dating life as I am in my career. But after years of dating, I have learned that positioning myself in every area of my life ― including dating ― is BEST. Just as much as I want to win in my career, encourage and support my family, and be an asset to my community, I want to win at LOVE. So I decided to take an active journey and do the work to make sure that I would win at love. Several of my friends met and married someone they met online and have thriving relationships with their husbands. On the other hand, I have friends who have met and married men in the more traditional offline way who have equally good relationships with their spouses.

My opinion is that there are educated, successful men who want to meet me everywhere. But my lifestyle and my life in general does not allow me to engage with new men outside of my small circle. It’s the 21st century, ladies ― there are NO LIMITS. So why limit myself? I chose to raise my odds and use both on and offline dating to my advantage. In the meantime, check out this article. Celebrate the fact that for the time being, you are single.

If you are concerned about the caliber of men online, I can almost guarantee you that the men online these days are just as great as men offline. Trust me. But there are crazies everywhere, on and offline. You have to protect yourself in both scenarios. Ladies, be open. Love is everywhere. There are no limits but the limits you give yourself. Don’t put yourself in a bubble by not positioning yourself in more places so that love can find you. The man of your dreams is waiting and looking for you. And if you do decide its’ the UPS man, postman, Fed Ex man or Jehovah Witness man, positioning yourself at home  is cool, just please make sure your hair is combed and you pop on a pinch of  your favorite lip gloss before answering the door. (wink)

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